Kalt & Stacey's housewarming

We went to Stacey and Kalt's housewarming where half of the couples there were mixed. When I came home, I started googling: "White guys with Asian girls" and found that I am not the only one who is well aware of this wide spread phenomenon here in the Bay Area.

I was chatting with someone at work when I first started in the beginning of the year. She saw a photo of me and Hak on my wall and asked, 'Is this your husband?' When I replied yes, she commented that I had married traditional. I thought, 'WTF?' What is that supposed to mean really? Obviously at that point, I suspected she married someone other than her own asian heritage and I was right.

Which reminded me of a conversation I had with the HR director from my last job. She was a nut job and turned out to be a royal evil bitch. She asked what nationality my boyfriend (at the time) was. I said asian. And she said, 'Really? I'm surprised. I thought you'd be with a white guy. You seem the type to be with a white guy. Again, WTF is that supposed to mean? Needless to say, she is a flip and her husband is white.

I've always been one to say that you cannot control your heart or who you fall in love with. I also believe that you fall in love with the person's soul and not the color of his/her skin. I've dated other of my own asian race but find myself annoyed at people who only date one particular race or seeks out only one particular race other than their own. I know I shouldn't care and it really isn't any of my business but yeah, it bugs me more than it should.

During my google search, I came upon this site:
http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com/2008/01/20/11-asian-girls/

And there was this comment thread which depressed the hell out of me:

somethingelse on July 26, 2008 at 3:44 pm
asian girls do look like they are 20 … but only until they are 45… then they look 72 the next day. strange phenomenon.
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Not a white girl on July 27, 2008 at 12:23 pm
that’s true… somethingelse. asian women don’t crack til about 45, then all the sudden go downhill. i’ve seen it in my aunts, and other asian women. wierd….
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The thing is, I think this is really true! I see the slightest signs of aging as I leave my 30's. It's as if I've looked younger than my years for the longest time and all of a sudden, I am begining to finally look my age. (Although people at work still think I am years younger than I am.)

I will feel forever young and I don't think I will ever lose the childest enthusium that I have, but slowly I'll need to get used to looking old(er)!